There is Only One Fish in the Sea

Photo: Big Frank Dickinson (NishiShinjuku, Tokyo)

Big Frank is looking for people to interview for his work-in-progress: "There is Only One Fish in the Sea" - a collection of interviews on broken hearts. This is a collection of people's stories, in their own words, on unrequited love. Big Frank guarantees anonymity and confidentiality, so anyone who has a story to tell and is willing to be interviewed, contact Big Frank and the interview can be set up. These can be done via Skype so distance is not an issue.

For those of you who are seeking a bit more definition and clarification on what "unrequited love", read the following definition from Ray Baumeister and Sara Atman's "Breaking Hearts".

"Unrequited love refers to romantic, passionate love that is felt by one person toward another person who feels substantially less attraction toward the lover. It is not necessary that the object of unrequited love be thoroughly indifferent. but the discrepancy between liking and loving is apparent to all, and people in love typically find it quite inadequate to hear that the other likes them but fails to love them.

Unrequited love is a relationship that fails to form. One person wants a romantic attachment in the way his or her culture defines it -- in our society, that means a high degree of intimacy, physical and sexual expression ..., and some mutual commitment to reserve certain parts of one's life and one's psyche to be shared only with one's beloved. The other person does not want this. Unrequited love is thus a rejection of an opportunity, an invitation, for romantic attachment.

What sets unrequited love apart from other relationship failures is that the relationship is prevented, not by external factors, but by the decision and preference of one person in the relationship. The rejector does not desire the relationship."

If this is you, and you want to talk about it, let Big Frank know. You can write to Big Frank at: BigFrankDickinson@yahoo.com